RSM Women in Leadership
tonight i want to tell you – you have choice
i want you to make other people powerful
i had a mentor that saw gifts in me that I didn’t see in myself
i wouldnt’ be here if i didn’t believe in myself
you get married, you stay at home
i don’t have the brains and time for MBA – nonsense
same for PhD
you were born with the ability to change some one’s life, dont ever waste it!
you are born with so many gifts and many will die with you
because you don’t believe in yourself and others don’t believe in you
you will help make others powerful
Dianne Bevelander, associate
I will be reading something and want to share with whole world – if they want to hear it or not!
david white – poet
i greet the god within you – namaste
WE NEED ROLE MODELS
Women dont’ have enough role models
Havard dean apologies to women for the way he
female protaganists – 20%
only 8% were women
we need to see powerful women, so we realise how powerful we are
how many of you work for a company where the majority of the board are women? stupid question, because I know the answer
Participation differentials – female participation rate in the economy
japan – frown upon if you’re a working mother, no child care
russia – communism, women treated equally,
If i look at the talent in this room, the talent is going to be lost
from 2003 1.6 and 2012 to 3.2
women are just at intelligent, passionate5 so what is wrong
I’ll depress you first
65 leading deans, 7 women
education
– you have to manage your own confidence
– pay attention on how you come across
– stereotype
– ability to inspire people
– i never give up, learn from suffering and mistakes
– women are sympathetic and willing to listen and attract support
– be aware of affect on others
– it’s not about being right, it’s about doing the right thing
– forget about being right and think about doing the right thing
– what is my impact I have on other people
– how men do things “better” – we don’t want to fix women, we want to release power
we’re not interested in fixing women, we’re interested in getting the best out of you.
i want you to believe and understand how great you all are
NETWORKING….
some of the differences we see and research
men network differently to women
Networking – are you having impact
men are better connected – more men at the top
do women see each other as rivals?
tidbit – be less competent and be kinder
research – rate someone you’d like to work with
you usually rate competence as above kindness
kindness is a choice
Commencement speeches – speech amazon guy for universities
there is an invisible network behind the networks in an organisation, but there are starts
HUBS: are people who are highly and directly connected with many people, communicating and disseminating knowledge throughout the organisation
Gatekeepers link people and customers together, acting as information gateways and brokering knowledge between critical parts of organisation
They get the most job offers and get more money. Highly trusted.
Pulse takers are subtle having the maximum influence using the minimum number of direct contacts, they work through indirect means. Dont have the time to know everyone, but are connected to the hubs and gatekeepers – CEO – get all they need to know.
Together these networks positions account for the stability and flexibility of organisational culture
Measuring trust – who do you work with/for. who do you have coffee with, drink with, Innovative ideas, you aren’t going to go to everyone, just those you trust.
The top 10% in the organisation who are trusted are the stars.
social network analysis
people are connected to other teams – loyalties, confirmed social ties
data is only data, you need to find out what is behind the data
as much as we want diversity, it’s emotionally draining
meet team at 6pm – who was there, first german, then dutch, then indian and belgian, mexican didnt’ come. japan. hard to create a diverse winning team.
trust takes a long time to build and only seconds to break
women are rivals
women are more focussed on their work
women dont’ realise the importance of network
insecure to network
gossip
women don’t trust each other
we want to be the best
having a strong network means you have to maintain – but not accepted
networking out each week with different men
time she has to dedicate – 2nd life after work
women are judgemental
women think too much
women become friends
structure of society – encourages women to stay at home
HOW DO WE CREATE THE WINNING
Different ways of communicating
I KNOW WHAT:S HAPPENING – I NEED TO BACK IT UP!!!
what would men really like to do – and let’s exclude them
men – this is discrimination – yes, it is.
women – braid hair in tanzania – emotional relationship, connection, in times of trouble, the ones who will help you. otherwise we don’t feel like friends.
men – task orientated
work perspective – supermum – talking about it, tough time – we should be saying positive things about each other. You want it to be positive
WHEN YOU SPEAK ABOUT ANOTHER WOMAN FROM TONIGHT ON, IT WILL BE POSITIVE, OR YOU WON’T SAY IT.
How do we view each other, lift each other up.
Kindness.
You don’t need to share everything with everyone.
We do a lot of damage out of love.
Malcom Gladwell – Blink
You don’t hear men saying it.
Men think women are talking too much if it’s about 17%-20
Men tend to make statements and women tend to ask questions
All of us have bias
https//implicit.havard.edu/implicit
Just be aware you have bias, slow thinking down so you can take this into account when making decisions
Media and books portray us this way
incongruence – men and women don’t like it as you aren’t acting to type
Miss Representation – you tube extended trailer
quotas
don’t tell me there are men at the top who shouldn’t be
there is a case for tokenism, starts the ball running
we will be pushed down by both men and women but if you don’t sit at the table, nothing is going to chance
84% of media, you are hearing from a male – we need more women.
test for women in movies
if you can’t see it
we have to acknowledge gender bias
sweden – preschool gender unbiased
transferring messages to daughters and sons
BE AWARE
why are there no women – couldn’t find – didn’t look and didn’t look hard enough
are you a feminist???????
start with understanding self and then you can explain
men and women together, us verses them
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Some takeaways:
learn about bias and share the knowledge
be more charitable and forgiving of other women
validate women speakers, job candidates, colleagues, guest speakers
mentor, mentor and sponsor
equate diversity with excellence
Miss representation – how media represent women – filter/lens
JUST BE AWARE
WE RSM – Women Empowerment website
WE@RSM
24/25 March women in leadership workshop
3/4 May – boot camp for those who are thinkinga bout being an entrepreneur
18 sep- women in leadership master class – amsterdam
Women in Business Conference
15 March – MBA Open Day – Masterclass
Networking – lets get serious
Negotiating
Power and Influence
Women in Leadership
Hetty
Rhianna
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